Stripping away the rose colored glasses of denial concerning my reality. Getting in touch with truth. Reaching out to others in empathy concerning their reality and their walk to truth.

Friday, April 30, 2010

Charity begins at home

Kitty Hawk Beach sunrise - the Outer Banks of North Carolina

It’s an old saying but one that needs to be paid attention to: “charity begins at home.” Knowing what we have, what we need, and what we can give away, is empowering. For me it evokes the ‘fruit of the lips,’ of saying praises and thanks.

Lately I’m reminded of what I have that needs nurturing and care. Within myself there is much to be thankful for. The changes I’ve been able to make that give me strength; better choices envelope health. And when I’m not worried or bothered about my health, I can move on to other areas that need renewed attention.

For the better part of three years I’ve forgotten me. You cannot imagine. It’s like I woke up one morning and said this is now going to stop. Out of the air, something like a scoop of magical dust of maturity, hit me like a brick. I needed to give to myself. I needed to recognize that I was losing me, otherwise.

So if I don’t write very much or very often, it’s due to my new choice. Maybe you know how free and fully I want to live. This blog is simply not big enough for me to live within.

My Mom use to say: “Man cannot live by bread alone, he must have peanut butter.” She also said, “Charity begins at home.”

(A special thank you to Heather P. for her wonderful blog that touched my heart this week.) Blog title: "Soundoff"...see my reading list!


  1. Dear dc,
    Indeed, I think that it's only when we begin to like ourselves that we can begin to give to others.
    So good luck in your quest to live "freely and fully". Here's hoping that you, in the words of H.D. Thoreau, "suck out the marrow of life".
    Yours with Very Best Wishes,

  2. Dear David,
    I have always liked myself. What I have 'missed' is knowing the triggers that 'begin a cycle of doing more for others, than for me.' That has been my reason to explore my past, though I've endured many people telling me to 'let it go'. How can I let 'it' go if I don't know what 'it' is?

    Now that I have the answers I need I can move on. People like you have truly helped me explore humanity. I've gleaned a great deal from reading your's and others' blogs.

    I wish you much contentment and success. Thank you so much for leaving a comment.

  3. Hi Dixie!
    Having been a people pleaser for most of my life I can relate to suddenly knowing that it is indeed my turn. It is called "self care" not selfish care. It is healthy and I applaud you. Thank you for the mention of my blog. I miss my Mom a lot.

  4. Wishing you well on your journey. I too have an "it" to let go off. There is a bit of me that is willing to let it fall, but the "it" has a tight hold, and it's that that I must now break. I wave you off on your renewed steps, but know of course you can always find me to lean, chat to etc, along your journey. I am starting to hopeful of mine :) xoxox

  5. Hi Heather,
    Wow and ouch, but still smiling!
    God love you.

  6. Dear "A jewel shining through,"
    I so admire your spark and spunk.

    The strange thing about 'its', is the chance that another will come along. Just when I think I might be 'perfect' somebody insists I get a grip! A grip on what? A grip on 'it'.(smile)

    One day, we're going to do lunch! I just know 'it'. xoxoxox

  7. Dixie... I look forward to it :) xoxox

  8. Dear Dixie,
    I sense that you are going through a time of gentle reflection.
    Now, I believe you are remembering who you are and the positive aspects that make up your being.
    I know that you love yourself. That in itself is a powerful message for you to realise a better future.
    I want you to know how much you have meant to my life. Your kindness, consideration and thoughtful gestures towards me have impacted my life in an inspirational and positive way. I am grateful for you.
    Dance, sing, smile, be free. I rejoice in the knowledge that you are finding time for Dixie.
    Maybe we can all do lunch:-)
    With kindness and great admiration, Gary xx

  9. Dear Gary,
    What a wonderful comment you've left for me. Thank you.
    You're like a 'heart in time'... a dear heart that rejoices and encourages others to rejoice too. I am grateful for you too.

    A group lunch sounds like fun:)
    Yours in peace,
    Dixie xx


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