tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8169296047258820802.post4906543417950905272..comments2024-03-20T05:20:50.253-04:00Comments on dcrelief ~ Remove the rose colored glasses: still tripping on carpets made by othersDixie@dcreliefhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11558671709412200904noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8169296047258820802.post-18945964992487158012012-04-27T13:31:03.338-04:002012-04-27T13:31:03.338-04:00Thanks, Mike, as this brings a better perspective ...Thanks, Mike, as this brings a better perspective to me. Of course the abuser would have the same needs as me, just different levels (perhaps).<br /><br />Yes, it seems quite possible to explain my own boundaries and thereby giving the abuser a choice. And should I also be able to accept his/her boundaries, then step by tiny step, we see where it takes us.<br /><br />I suppose that's really a better solution. In all fairness to myself, I continue to guard my own heart.<br /><br />Thanks again, Mike :)Dixie@dcreliefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11558671709412200904noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8169296047258820802.post-35153204384053403582012-04-27T10:59:07.179-04:002012-04-27T10:59:07.179-04:00I guess the carpet man needs the attention, it mak...I guess the carpet man needs the attention, it makes him feel important - so he gets energy from all of this. <br /><br />What he should perhaps be doing is trying to make the finest carpets possible and, therefore, get the attention (and praise /importance) that way.<br /><br />I think we all like to feel important (i.e. loved) by others. It's maybe what abusers are looking for.Mike Perryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02149847109691591945noreply@blogger.com